Can't Remember, cont'd

After doing some more thinking, and like Pooh, being a person of very little brain, I think in the most thoughtful way, I think last year's birthday was upset by Carolyn and her relationship with her then boyfriend Steve.  They had a huge fight on Carolyn's birthday and she stayed with us that night.  Probably the next night too and I probably made her leave and that probably caused a big fight, because they are always big fights.  I also do remember that I thought she was being completely unfair to Steve and her arguments were not valid, as I feel so often when she is arguing with me.  It is much worse though when she is not taking her medications.

Another thing that Carolyn was upset about this, and I have to agree with her on this one, I had ordered some Pampered Chef stuff for her and it wasn't in yet.  It is what she wanted for her birthday, but it wasn't here by her birthday.

So for this year, all day today I was sad, and I cried.  I finally decided that I would go ahead and get her some gifts and bake a cake for her because I would rather have those things and her not come over then not have them and her come over.  She finally called me tonight about 8:00 and I felt like I was talking to a recording that was on a higher playback speed and spliced together so that there were no empty spaces.  I told her that we will take her out tomorrow night for dinner and a drink at the restaurant of her choosing.  Her comments were something like this, although through in quite a few curse words:

C: Where do I want to go I don't know somewhere where they have really good drinks like Olive Garden, no Olive Garden doesn't have a good bar may cork & pig but i went there yesterday for lunch but I couldn't drink then, maybe Carinos no I really can't think of where I would like to go.

ME:  What about Red Lobster?C:  Oh no red lobster doesn't have a good bar I really need to go somewhere where they can make me {insert obscene drink name here} and I don't know why everywhere i go I get trash talked to me for ordering those drinks.  But wasn't there a place like FiFis that we could eat at, downtown?

ME:  Zero One Ale House has...C: Oh Ale House that should be a good bar and they can probably make me a obscene drink name there although I don't really know what I want to drink. What about Steel Penny, I have never been there.

Me:  SP would be OK but not really anything vegetarian on the menu so....C: that's ok, I am probably not going to want to eat anyway unless we go at 5:00 but no I don't want to go at 5:00 becasue I probably will have just waken up and will have already eaten something so maybe around 7:00 so then yeah I might be hungry so maybe not SP.  What kind of food does the Ale House have.

Me:  They have a few vegetarian dishes like stuffed portabello with...C: oh stuffed portabello would be great do they have Barcardi 151 because those are the drinks i like to drink.  Everybody else thinks they are strong but I don't.  but yeah maybe Olive Garden would be a good place becasue I could get pasta with alfredo sause or red sauce but they make their drinks with Mountain Dew. What are you planning to go to bed tonight.

Me:  Daddy and I go to bed at 10:00 because... C:  Well, I was thinking I might come over and hang out because I am bored and I don't have anything to do.  I may be too drunk to do anything tomorrow for my birthday.  I might be passed out.  But maybe not because I am not really a planner, I am into procrastination   I was thinking about going to some clubs tonight but then they will mark my hand as a minor and then after midnight they won't be serving me drinks because they will think I am a minor even thought I can wipe those marks off within seconds, I always do.  I don't know how they expect for you not to wash them off with your first trip to the bathroom, but can I come over until 10:00.

ME:  Not if you are going to continue to babble not stop about how drunk you are going to get.

C:  dial tone.  

Yes, that is right, she hung up on me.  Oh, and at several times during the call which was MUCH longer than depicted, I told her to just call me tomorrow to let me know what time and where she wants to meet.  Why do I love her so freaking much.  I want to hug her and kiss her and yet I am horrified that she is going to stink.  Why can't I just get through that.  My husband also thinks I was too hard on her because she always talks like this.  I think it's meth, but he says no.

In the meantime, back at the funny farm, I started baking a red velvet cake while watching the political debate.  Did I mention that I have had a migraine all day.  Making cake, listening to debate, and Dr. Yenny shows up.  We talk about his most recent boyfriend like candidate.  Sounds a little iffy to me, but we will see.

So, I am looking at my finances to see who much we can take with us to Arlington this weekend to see my Eliamaria Madrid Onofre in "Suddenly Next Summer" and cue suspense music now....  dun, dun, dunmb.  No money.  It seems that when Joey made an extra $550 by cashing in PTO last week he didn't mean to give it to me.  Well, i didn't realize that and I paid some bills and planed for trip to Arlington and then checked the balance today -563.  That's not really recoverable without draining savings.  :(  So, no trip to Arlington.  Joey really angry.  Genna sure it isn't her fault and now we are broke.  My birthday's always suck.  I think that I will continue brazing them prepared for whatever.

At the end of this day what I have learned:

• Carolyn's birthday gift ready - sort of (still got to wrap it)
• Cake baked
• And back to broke.  It was nice for the few days we weren't broke.
• Start shopping and planning for birthdays at least 7 days in advance.  
• Hopefully Carolyn will still come over tomorrow.

I have got to remember HOW to save money.  This is making me crazy.  Seems simple, spend less than you make.  Repeat after me.  This year my birthday will be fine.  This year my birthday will be fine.